Benefits of Mediation:

* The parties are in control:

   The problem with placing a third party in charge is your lack of control in the process.  You cannot control how long it takes to schedule a hearing.  You cannot control how long it takes to make a change in a temporary plan that is not working. If you and your partner are now working through your attorneys, you are required to call your attorney to communicate the problem, and your attorney has to call their attorney to explain your position.  The parties’ lack of control results in a very expensive solution at a time when most parties can least afford it. 

* Mediation can assist in minimizing negative emotions

   The mediator facilitates a process which will enable the parties to begin to defuse their anger, frustration, and distrust.  These feelings are present for almost all parties in conflict, but they are an obstacle that must be overcome to enable positive and productive negotiations.

* Mediation is less expensive than litigation

   Resolving disputes with litigation most often involves the payment of two attorneys with each party paying hourly rates in excess of $125.00 per hour.  Mediation is $60.00 per hour and is typically split equally by the parties.

* Positive Outcome for Both Parties:

   Most parties are able to resolve a major portion, if not all, of their disputes with the assistance of an experienced and qualified mediator. Some research estimates success as high as 80%. 

   Almost without exception, parties responsible for their own agreement are happier with their agreement than they are with a resolution created by a third party.

   Parties developing their own agreements are much more likely to comply with the terms of the agreement.

   Even parties that are unable to resolve their conflict in mediation report a reduction in conflict and report that the mediation was a positive experience.

* Time Savings:

   The amount of conflict between parties is directly related to the amount of time it takes to resolve the conflict.

   If you are required to wait months for a court hearing, it is likely that your conflict will increase significantly.

* Significantly lessens the impact of your separation on your children:

   A source of guidance for better communication between the parties and their children

   Information on how to talk with your children about the separation

   Tools to assist you with your child's change in behaviors following separation;

   A place to talk about what your child needs

* Mediation places an emphasis on your need to maintain an ongoing relationship as parents:

   Even though your relationship is changing, you must maintain a relationship long after the entry of the final order.

   Mediation provides alternatives that will facilitate a more cordial working relationship as you continue to parent your children.

   Mediation can open communication to enable a clear and accurate exchange of information between the parties.